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GUARDIANSHIP: TURNING 18
When your child with a disability is about to turn 18

For eighteen years, you've been the one who could speak to the doctors, sign the forms, sit at the school table, and make decisions in your child's best interest. You've earned that role a hundred times over.
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​Here's what most families aren't told until late. On your child's eighteenth birthday, in the eyes of the law, your child becomes an adult, and your authority to make those decisions ends. Not because anyone doubts your love or involvement, but because the law now treats your child as their own decision maker, even when a disability means they can't fully take that on. 
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​​If a transition coordinator, teacher, or another parent pointed you here, they did you a real favor. If you're reading this before the birthday, you're doing this at a good time. If you're reading it after, keep going, the next part is for you too. 
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This doesn't have to mean taking away your child's rights

When people hear "guardianship," they often picture the most sweeping version, a parent making every decision and the young adult with no say at all. That is one option, and for some young people it is genuinely the right one, but it is not the only one. Pennsylvania law actually prefers the least intrusive arrangement that meets the real need.


Depending on your child's abilities, there may be lighter options. A limited guardianship covers only the specific areas where your child needs help, such as medical decisions, while leaving their independence intact everywhere else. Supported decision making lets your child keep their rights while getting structured help from people they trust. In some situations, your child may be able to put arrangements in place themselves, if their level of understanding allows.


Which of these fits depends entirely on your child. Sorting that out honestly, without overreaching and without leaving gaps, is the heart of what we do together. 

What families tell me they wish they'd known

After walking many families through this, I hear the same things again and again, and none of it is common knowledge: 
  • The deadline is the birthday, not graduation or some later milestone, and it arrives whether or not anyone is ready.
  • "Guardianship" isn't one thing, and choosing the fullest version by default can take more from a young person than their situation calls for.
  • Doctors, colleges, and agencies will stop sharing information the day your child turns 18 unless something is legally in place.
  • Depending on the path you choose, there can be ongoing responsibilities worth understanding up front. 
  • Doing this early and calmly is far easier than doing it under pressure later.

Most attorneys came to this work through law firms. I came through a career spent inside the systems these families rely on, advocating for people with disabilities who were too often overlooked or underestimated. I start from the belief that your child is a person with their own preferences and dignity, not a problem to be managed. Our goal is never the most control the law allows. It is the right amount, enough to keep your child safe and supported, and no more than that. 

What the process actually looks like

We start by understanding your child, not by filing anything. The first question is how much support your child actually needs, and in which areas, because that answer decides whether guardianship is the right tool at all, and if it is, how much of it. We sort that out carefully before any decision is made. 
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​If guardianship is the right path, it is a court process with real protections built in. We petition the court, and the court requires current evidence of your child's need, usually an evaluation from a physician or psychologist. Your child is entitled to notice and to their own representation, and the court holds a hearing before appointing a guardian. I prepare the petition, gather what the court expects, and stand with you through the hearing. When a lighter arrangement fits better, such as a limited guardianship or supported decision making, we put that in place instead.
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​If the court appoints you as guardian, the role carries ongoing duties, including regular reports to the court, for as long as the guardianship lasts. I explain exactly what that involves before you take it on, and I am here afterward as new questions come up, because they will. 
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​Whether we do this before the birthday or after, my job is to find the arrangement that fits your child and to handle the legal side so you can keep being their parent.